Writer: Leah Oketcho
If you figure out why people do the things they do or don’t do then you got a huge leg up on life. Pay attention , we don’t listen to each other anymore.
What is life if not for the people around us. Just think about it, when you have finally achieved something you have been working so hard at, you want to tell someone, right? Because God made us to be social beings. We need each other.
The reason most people go to work everyday is to live a comfortable life, to be able to provide for children, to be able to drive an expensive car, and to live in a big house among many things. Bottom line we do these things for the people we love otherwise all it leaves us with is emptiness.
Now I know there is a lot of talk about “Do you” don’t concern yourself with what others think. “Your happiness” is more important. Stuff like that. Well I will be bursting your bubble today. “Your Happiness” is a good thing but it is not the most important thing in life. There are many changing seasons in life and these will take a toll on your happiness but this does not mean you have lost life. This is why we need each other.
Even so called loners desire human contact. Everyone desires to be loved. But to receive this love one must give such or even more love. It is so much easier to love a loveable person. The thing is though, love at first sight gets you through the door but pure loves keeps you relevant.
So then I guess the magical question is: Why do people do the things they do?
Maybe it is because they are insecure of who they are. Some claim it is a way of building walls to protect themselves from being hurt. We do not truly live if we shut the doors on people in our lives.
The trick is to STOP TELLING PEOPLE MORE THAN THEY NEED TO KNOW or rather know when the time is right to share (and what to share) and with whom to share.
People can mean to be complex. The adults especially. Children are more straightforward, they speak what they feel without holding back and so they have a free spirit. Do you ever wonder why we always feel the urgency to protect a child? Like when we hear of a child’s rights being abused. Even the coldest of politicians knows that ain’t right. Children are innocent and pure free of evil until we the adults poison their minds. But what children truly do is LIVE.
Adults tend to take life way too seriously until they are overwhelmed with depression or the body gives way either way they end up in hospital.
The answer to why people do the things they do is probably one we may never be able to quite put into words. But people show us how they feel about us through their actions both when the pressure is up and when it is 100% serenity.
I once read a saying by George Bernard that said, “Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.” Everyone deserves love but if you are not received in a place rather than “GET DIRTY, dust off your feet and move on. God gave us the right to live in this beautiful mostrouse world. No man has been able to converse the whole thing.
This is what I think and I mean this is just me so feel free to have an opinion about it. We never truly have an experience when we do things half heartedly. To truly live. One must be all in. The best part is we experience with people. Without people a great experience can appear quite empty. You must pay more attention. At times people do the things they do because we conditioned them to.