Writer: Jonathan Micheal Ocweo

Once upon a time this statement had one sole purpose, and that was to pass exams in class. Today, it is more than just a statement. If you are being honest with yourself, you have lived through it, you have seen it happen, and you have most definitely almost grasped the concept to be able to pen-down an entire essay on this.

Honestly, I will tell you that this does not in any way negate the writer from his own words. It is easier to live in denial than face it. We see it coming, one step at a time, and we totally know how It is going to end but we watch intently and wait patiently as our eyes gaze with clear certainty on how it inevitably ends.

When we see smoke coming out of a building, we don’t just walk back to bed and sleep soundly as if we didn’t see it but, rather, we scream for help, we call 911, we get the fire fighters on site, we get everyone who is in the building to safety. We do not wait to see the fire for us to start responding. Because we already know even without having to see the fire that IT IS A FIRE.

I think the worst form of hypocrisy is to see ‘The Smoke’ over your friend’s life and just pretend not to see it at all. Watching him/her go down the path to ultimate desolate destruction. The signs are always crystal clear, screaming out to you; “You can See Me! DO SOMETHING!” But we prefer to smile it off and move on with the fun, the games, the laughter, the outings, the plastic pretentious visits, and the well filtered praise of the subject.

Now I don’t want to sound like I am going to tell you what to do because I too face this same challenge day in and day out. I have not always responded to ‘the smoke’ the way I ought to have done, but I do know that you and I have to think this through.

One of the things we silently sign up for when we accept friends into our lives is the willingness to hurt and to be hurt by them. It’s called being vulnerable. The willingness to have ‘The Hard Talk’. I believe this defines, anchors and deepens any relationship with anyone that has the willingness to reciprocate.

Proverbs 18:24 tells us that A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Always Remember ‘There is no smoke without fire’

Jonathan Micheal Ocweo
Leah Grace Oketcho, is a highly talented Communication specialist, gifted in leadership with over 3 years of leadership and management experience at different levels. She is a team player and has demonstrated ability in mobilizing and organizing others to achieve desired goals. Oketcho is well vast in the art of creating alternatives for ways to get results. She has over the years grown in the art of corporate communications and also participated in the development of performance management materials for various professional institutions. Leah received training in research, scripting, international relations, and data analysis as well as public relations. She is passionate about solving public health related problems. She has offered training to youth in oral and written communication, people management and mentoring, editing and documentation skills, public speaking.


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