Writer: Shuckie

We all have certain expectations from the people we love or hope to love or generally people we are in relationships with. There are certain things that we want in a relationship. Going on dates, taking romantic walks, getting to know each other, receiving and giving gifts, being introduced to friends and family, communicating. The list is as long as your imagination can take you.

So I guess the question is, what happens when you love someone or are in a relationship with someone who cannot meet your expectations? I know most people say it’s important to communicate what you want from the start. I agree. However, I think comprehension is way more important. It is stronger than communication. If you communicate but don’t comprehend, there will be no change. Trust me on this. Repeated communication on the same issues is nagging and is frustrating for the one communicating since nothing seems to be changing. You begin to feel ignored or misunderstood. Sweetheart, you are misunderstood or not understood at all because comprehension is missing.

This brings me to today’s topic: Is being in love with someone enough to give up these expectations? We talk about compromise and how important it is in a relationship especially with someone that you love. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you shouldn’t compromise in a relationship, however compromise has a limit. Compromise is good if you are compromising on a few things, say like 2-3 things not on everything just because you love someone. Your partner should meet you half way. You shouldn’t have to give up on all you want? Compromise is supposed to be a two way street. (It takes 2 to tangle).

Isn’t it okay to walk way in quest for what you want? I think you should walk away and find what you want without feeling guilty at all. It is true, it may might hurt at that moment because letting go of a loved one is hard. On the bright side, walking away from an unfulfilling relationship may lead you into one with what you want. It might not be all you want but it will be a lot more than an empty one.

Leah Grace Oketcho, is a highly talented Communication specialist, gifted in leadership with over 3 years of leadership and management experience at different levels. She is a team player and has demonstrated ability in mobilizing and organizing others to achieve desired goals. Oketcho is well vast in the art of creating alternatives for ways to get results. She has over the years grown in the art of corporate communications and also participated in the development of performance management materials for various professional institutions. Leah received training in research, scripting, international relations, and data analysis as well as public relations. She is passionate about solving public health related problems. She has offered training to youth in oral and written communication, people management and mentoring, editing and documentation skills, public speaking.


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