Emotional maturity can be defined as how well you are able to respond to situations, control your emotions and behave in an adult manner when dealing with others meaning, being honest about your feelings and building trust with those around you.
When I find myself reacting differently to a situation, from how I would have, let’s say a year ago, I just can’t help but pat myself on the back. The ability to say, “not today Satan” and knowing what battles to fight or not bother with makes me feel more in control of my life in general.
I view emotional maturity as the ability to choose inner peace above all and understanding that When people are in a deep place of hurt, they try so hard to inflict that pain on those around them and unfortunately those closest to them end up in the crossfire.
According to Kosjenka Muk, author of Emotional Maturity in everyday life, even if we are so used to our patterns of feelings and thoughts that it might seem impossible or very difficult to change, it can be done. If you want to succeed in personal development, you need to be willing to face even the most immature parts of yourself. You must take the responsibility for changing your life.
The reward is a true and permanent improvement that reaches the very core of your personality. Only committed effort can create visible, permanent results in your relationships and life. Deep honesty to yourself is the first step on the journey towards your happiness and health.
She further explains that true emotional maturity is not possible without a basic experience of self as worthy of love. People who do not love themselves, cannot truly love or appreciate other people. They might consciously try, but fear, anger and shame accumulated under the surface will often motivate them to act defensively or criticize others, just to be able to bear with their own negative self-images.
Emotional maturity and self-esteem go hand in hand. Self-esteem includes a deep inner core of self-trust and self-acceptance. It is like a “fixed point” in your personal universe, which you can lean on even when, externally, your world appears to be falling apart. When you are self-aware you know what works for you and what doesn’t.
In psychology, the term self-esteem is used to describe a person’s overall sense of self-worth or personal value. In other words, how much you appreciate and like yourself. Self-esteem is often seen as a personality trait, which means that it tends to be stable and enduring.
Working on your emotional maturity may include but not limited to: • Learning to identify your emotions • Setting healthy boundaries • Taking ownership of your reality
Bottom line, knowing who we are, the worth of those around us, admitting when we need help, finding a connection and true belonging can show how we can develop our personal growth and emotional maturity.