Writer: Shuckie

Valentine’s Day which is also known as St. Valentine’s Day is a widely celebrated day. It is a day of romance where lovers exchange greetings and gifts with one another. I know many might say that they show love to each other every day but this is different. At least for me it is. It is one of those days of the year that people look forward to for various reasons. I look forward to it because of all the chocolate and candy. I have a sweet tooth. It comes with a lot of excitement and expectations especially by the female gender. Men also have expectations from their women on this day although they don’t over advertise it or put it out there like the way women do. I think men tend to shy away from their expectations. With all the excitement, one can’t leave out the fact there is bound to be disappointments. Well, disappointments usually arise from having expectations.

Some of the expectations that come with the day include; candle lit dinners, romantic getaways, flower bouquets, cakes, cupcakes, rose petals on the floors, walks on the beach, and so many more. I will let you put your imagination to use at this point since we all have different ways we celebrate this day. And we all have different expectations. These thing definitely excite us and make us happy. I for one love these things. And I think men do these things for their women just to make them happy and excited since men don’t usually fancy such things.

Obviously it’s not only women who get excited about this day, men do too. Men also have some expectations from their women. They expect the woman to be available to him in order for him to execute whatever he has planned for the two of them. Just like women, men also expect to receive gifts from their lovers. They may shy away from it and make it seem like it is not such a big deal like the way we do but deep down, they feel really special when they receive something from her. Disappointment may not really be evident when he doesn’t receive something but trust me it’s there.

When these things don’t happen, people tend to get disappointed. I think this should not be the case on this day. HOW ABOUT WE TRY SOMETHING NEW THIS VALENTINE’S DAY? How about showing love to oneself? Instead of expecting someone else to make this day memorable for you, do it yourself? If it’s the candle lit dinner that you want, book a table at a restaurant and have it, if it’s the chocolate bouquet that you want, get it for yourself. Have you watched that Mr. Bean’s Valentine’s Day episode where he writes cards and then goes outside his door and slides them through the door? Then he opens the door and acts surprised to see them and opens them even though he is the one who has written them to himself. No one sent him anything on that day but he didn’t sulk about it, he went ahead and did what he wanted on that day.

Valentine’s Day is a day about love. If others are not showing you the love the way you want those to on that day, then show yourself that love. Better still you can show that love to others so that they can learn from you. Give without expecting to be given in return.

Leah Grace Oketcho, is a highly talented Communication specialist, gifted in leadership with over 3 years of leadership and management experience at different levels. She is a team player and has demonstrated ability in mobilizing and organizing others to achieve desired goals. Oketcho is well vast in the art of creating alternatives for ways to get results. She has over the years grown in the art of corporate communications and also participated in the development of performance management materials for various professional institutions. Leah received training in research, scripting, international relations, and data analysis as well as public relations. She is passionate about solving public health related problems. She has offered training to youth in oral and written communication, people management and mentoring, editing and documentation skills, public speaking.


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